Do you yell at your date, like a boss?

Want a little more attention when you’re trying to talk to a new boyfriend or girlfriend? That’s where the yelling comes in. While studies suggest that men are more than twice as likely to…

Do you yell at your date, like a boss?

Want a little more attention when you’re trying to talk to a new boyfriend or girlfriend? That’s where the yelling comes in.

While studies suggest that men are more than twice as likely to yell than women in settings like a meeting or crowded bar, these spontaneous displays of emotion and passion may also play a role in attracting a partner in the dating pool. In one study, volunteers who listened to a study announcement in which the author swore jumped from their seats about twice as often when it was accompanied by a canned pre-recorded audio clip. These self-reinforcing triggers, it appears, may be more effective than good chivalry.

Managers know that overemphasizing good deeds can be counterproductive. In addition to badgering their coworkers to co-sign deals they otherwise wouldn’t take, business leaders need to remain upbeat and friendly to gain additional work from their team. Unless it’s that time where you just need to vent, though, self-pity rarely wins.

(The author is President and chief executive of CouponSherpa, a savings search engine, and author of “The Dash to Diets,” forthcoming in January 2019. She is also a writer for the Weekly Business section, the Money section, and Points & Signals.)

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